In this article we are going to discuss how to be good at seducing women. Now, if you’ve read any of my other articles (and especially if you’ve read my book) you are certainly aware of lots of the lies out there about attracting and seducing women. They’re everywhere, they’re varied, and they all have one thing in common: They’re total bull.
Why do I say that?
Well, there are at least 3 reasons why someone would lie about attracting and seducing women. The first is obvious: They don’t want you to believe they’re good looking enough to embarrass them. They want you to think they’re below average looks when they see you.
The second is a little more subtle, and it’s because they may actually feel that they have some sort of a natural beauty that they’re just not using. They may be shy and insecure, possibly self-conscious about their body, possibly feeling that maybe other women are better looking than them. softened symactiscants will accept your admiration, but they won’t give you the space to actually look at them.
And perhaps the third reason why someone would lie about being amazing with the opposite sex is because they may actually be pretty good looking, but they don’t see themselves that way. They may be shy and overly inhibited about talking to women regarding sex, regarding anything really, but mostly about socializing with you. And because of this fact, they may try to hide their looks and socialize with you, but gradually withdraw as soon as something gets out of hand.
Now, all of this isn’t necessarily patterns of behavior, it’s just an interesting descriptive term for a whole host of different things that may be going on. One thing that frequently happens is that when I’m having a conversation with a girl, we’ll talk about general things, I’ll say something funny, and she’ll say funny things back. It happens a lot, and I think it’s really a shame. That’s not the person they think they’re talking to, and that’s not the person they want to be talking to. When you run into this, it’s usually a sign that the relationship needs to be broken.
It also happens because a girl is really attracted to you, and really wants you, too. But the guy is so wrapped up in his own emotions and frustrations that he’s failing to pay attention to hers. Or he’s choosing to judge her for being attracted to him, when really, she’s just being human being who has insecurities about a lot of things.
It’s a dangerous path to take, when you have a sweet relationship going. It’s really easy to give up, and it’s a temptation to say, “Okay, I’m just going to go with the flow here. This is all on you, remember? Just do it with me.” And if she’s a girl who’s not very open with her feelings, this can make it even worse.
At least give me a little bit of leeway. I wouldn’t exactly say “freeze or detach,” because that gets prescription for more failure. But you need to express your feelings and views. You need to be willing to hear hers out, but you also need to be able to hear out her. When you’re too judgmental, she can respond by pulling away.
It comes down to paying attention. Paying attention to her body language, and what she might be wanting to say. Making sure that you’re not saying the things that kill attraction, and making sure that you’re not making her feel as though she’s not special enough. Even if she’s willing to open up and be honest with you, there’s still a chance that she’ll pass up the opportunity because you’re not being as supportive as you could be.
Having a relationship is a hard thing to do. It’s always going to be a possibility; you’re both always going to be attracted to one another. That being said, releasing the built up bond will allow you to fall in love, which will make for fantastic sex and fantastic companionship. So you can stop worrying about how much of a catch you are; you can start learning how to please her and what makes her feel good without holding back!